Expert tips for parents from Clinical Psychologist Dr Selina Warlow.
As September rolls around, the anticipation of a new school year brings excitement for many children. However, for those with ADHD or autism, this period can be particularly challenging. Transitions, new routines, new schools and social interactions may heighten anxiety, making it crucial for parents and schools to provide thoughtful support.
Dr Selina Warlow, a clinical psychologist specialising in neurodiversity, shares strategies that can help parents support their children as they navigate the return to the school environment.
Establish a predictable routine
Children with ADHD or autism often thrive in structured environments. Before the school year begins, start implementing a daily routine that mirrors the school day. This could include waking up at the same time, having regular mealtimes, and setting a consistent bedtime. A predictable schedule helps reduce anxiety and allows children to feel more in control.
Tip: Create a visual schedule that outlines the daily routine. I recommend using pictures or colour codes to represent different activities, making it easier for your child to understand and follow.
Collaborate with the school
Communication with teachers and school staff is crucial. Share information about your child’s needs, strengths, and potential triggers. Establishing a strong partnership with the school can lead to the development of tailored support plans.
Tip: Schedule a meeting with your child’s teacher before school starts. This is a good opportunity to discuss any accommodations or modifications that may be necessary, such as your child having a meeting the teachers before the school year starts, if possible, extended time on tests, sensory breaks, or seating arrangements that minimise distractions.
Prepare for social interactions
For children with autism social interactions can be overwhelming. Role-playing common social scenarios, such as greeting a classmate or asking for help from a teacher, can boost your child’s confidence. Discuss strategies for managing social challenges, like finding a quiet space if they feel overwhelmed or using a stress-relief tool. If your child struggles to ask for help you could make a communication card which they could put onto their teacher’s desk to communicate how they are feeling or if they need help
Tip: Encourage participation in small-group activities outside of school to practice social skills in a less formal setting. This could be a hobby, class, sports team, or a playdate with a trusted friend.
Create a calming home environment
After a day at school, children may feel overwhelmed and need time to decompress. Your child may benefit from a designated “quiet space” at home where your child can retreat if they feel overwhelmed. This space should be free from distractions, filled with comforting items like soft pillows, weighted blankets, or their favourite books.
Tip: Incorporate relaxation techniques into the daily routine, such as deep breathing exercises, listening to calming music, or engaging in mindfulness activities. These practices can help your child learn to self-regulate their emotions and manage stress.
Encourage positive reinforcement
Children with ADHD or autism may face frequent challenges, so celebrating their successes, no matter how small, is important. Positive reinforcement can boost self-esteem and motivate your child to keep trying, even when things are difficult.
Tip: You may wish to use a reward system to acknowledge accomplishments or simply remind them how well they are doing. If you can recognise a child’s challenges but praise their resilience to overcome some of these every day, they are more likely to feel heard and understood.
Monitor and adjust as needed
Every child is unique, and what works for one may not work for another. Regularly assess how your child is coping with the demands of school. If you notice signs of distress, such as changes in behavior, sleep disturbances, or increased anxiety, it may be time to adjust your approach or seek additional support.
Tip: Keep a journal of your child’s progress, noting any challenges and how they were addressed. This can be a helpful tool when communicating with teachers or specialists and for reflecting on what strategies have been effective.
Practice self-care
Supporting a child with ADHD or autism can be demanding, and parents often put their own needs aside. However, maintaining your well-being is crucial to being an effective support system for your child. Take time for yourself, seek support from other parents or professionals, and remember that it’s okay to ask for help when you need it.
Tip: Join a support group for parents of children with ADHD or autism. Sharing experiences and advice with others who understand your challenges can provide emotional relief and practical tips.
As the new school year begins, remember that your child’s journey is unique, and their needs may evolve over time. By providing structure, understanding, and support, you can help them navigate the challenges ahead with confidence. With the right tools and strategies, both you and your child can look forward to a successful and fulfilling school year.
By Dr Selina Warlow – Clinical Psychologist and Neurodiversity Specialist