Introducing the LGBT+ Guide for Parents
Just Like Us, an LGBT+ young people’s charity, has launched an essential new resource: the LGBT+ Guide for Parents. This guide aims to help families become better allies and offers advice on supporting children if they come out.
Sandi Toksvig said: “As a parent and grandparent, who is also part of the LGBT+ community, I encourage all families to read Just Like Us’ LGBT+ Guide for Parents. It’s so vital that talking about LGBT+ people doesn’t become a taboo topic at home, and this guide helps lead the way.”
John Bishop said: “As a straight dad, I’ve always wanted my kids to know that we as a family accept LGBT+ people. I’m so proud of my gay son, and every LGBT+ young person deserves to feel loved and accepted. Everyone can be an ally and this guide shows parents how.”
Addressing Growing Concerns
Set to be released on 24 February, the guide responds to the increasing use of anti-LGBT+ language among primary school children and damaging public discourse around LGBT+ lives. It centers the voices of LGBT+ young people and was developed in consultation with over 100 parents and LGBT+ youth who shared their personal experiences.
Key Topics Covered
The guide encourages positive and open conversations about LGBT+ topics and identities, emphasizing the importance of celebrating diversity. Topics include:
- Unlearning stereotypes about LGBT+ people
- Encouraging inclusivity in schools
- Supporting children if they come out
Voices from the Community
Experiences of LGBT+ Youth
Rohan (he/him), 21, trans and bisexual, expressed how valuable this guide would have been when he came out: “This is the guide I wish had existed when I came out to my mum.”
Rush, 22, a queer and trans youth, shared: “This guide outlines the kind of support I wish I had from my family. Seeing my parents read this guide would make me feel safer, more understood, and more comfortable expressing myself authentically.”
Jenna, a young lesbian, emphasized the guide’s importance in today’s climate: “If this guide was available when I came out, I would have felt more equipped to educate my family. It would have helped them understand the importance of coming out.”
Ruth, 19, reflected on the support from her Christian mother: “My mum being a vocal ally in the church means the world to me. Her actions show how she accepts me and supports me in every aspect of my life.”
The Need for Support and Education
Research by Just Like Us highlights the challenges LGBT+ young people face:
- 78% of primary school and 80% of secondary school students have heard homophobic language.
- A third of British parents have never spoken to their child about what LGBT+ means.
- 31% of LGBT+ youth are not confident their parents will accept them.
- 46% of LGBT+ youth are estranged from at least one family member.
Experts and Parents Endorse the Guide
Amy Ashenden, Author and Director of Communications at Just Like Us
“As a parent myself, I know many of us want to do our best for our children. But sometimes, a lack of knowledge can make approaching these topics difficult. I hope this guide helps more families feel empowered to be proud allies to the LGBT+ community.”
Dr. Maryhan Munt, Parenting Expert and Psychologist
“Just Like Us has given us all a clear understanding of what LGBT+ allyship truly is. It’s in our actions, not just our words. This guide helps break down stereotypes and provides well-informed education.”
Bridget, a Parent of an LGBT+ Person
“As the mother of a young lesbian, this guide would have been invaluable. Hearing the voices of so many young people is truly inspirational.”
A Step Towards Greater Family Acceptance
Laura Mackay, Chief Executive of Just Like Us, stressed the importance of family support: “No young person should have to fear rejection from their family. A lack of acceptance can lead to lower self-esteem, estrangement, and even homelessness. This guide helps parents create an environment where difference is celebrated and inclusion is prioritized.”
With this guide, Just Like Us hopes to bridge the gap between parents and their LGBT+ children, fostering understanding, love, and acceptance for all families.