
Mental Health advice for children
Mental health: January often feels heavy, with shorter days, post-holiday blues, and financial stress. For many families, it’s a time when mental challenges feel heightened. With Blue Monday (20th January 2025) approaching, children’s mental health expert Lily-Jo (pictured above) shares her top tips for supporting your child—and yourself—through the winter wellbeing crisis.
The BLUE method for children’s mental health
Lily-Jo’s BLUE acronym—Believe, Listen, Understand, Exercise—offers practical steps to support your child’s mental wellbeing.
Believe in their feelings
Take your child’s emotions seriously, even if they seem exaggerated. Instead of dismissing their feelings with comments like, “You’re just tired,” validate them. Try saying, “I see you’re feeling upset. Can you tell me more about why?”
By showing you value their perspective, you help them feel loved and safe, encouraging them to open up when they face challenges.
Listen actively
Use “listening language” to show empathy and understanding. For instance, if your child feels anxious about wearing a new coat to school, ask:
- “What makes you feel this way?”
- “What do you think might help you feel better about it?”
Avoid dismissive responses like, “Don’t be silly.” When children feel heard, their anxiety often decreases, and they feel more confident facing fears.
Understand their worries
Help your child process emotions with practical tools. Create a “worry box” where they can write and deposit their concerns. Set aside time to discuss these worries together.
Encourage journaling as another way for children to express thoughts and feelings. Both techniques provide a safe outlet for emotions, helping children feel more in control.
Exercise for a mood boost
Physical activity is vital for mental health. Encourage outdoor play or family walks to release endorphins and improve mood. Bundle up if it’s cold and make it fun—head to the park or kick a ball around.
Supporting your own mental health
Parents face immense pressure, from navigating the cost-of-living crisis to helping children cope with social media stress. Lily-Jo advises using the “Three Bs” to protect your mental wellbeing this January:
Being
Check in with yourself. Ask, “How am I feeling today?” Acknowledging your struggles can be the first step toward seeking help or making small changes to feel better.
Breathing
Take time for yourself. Practise mindfulness, meditate, or try light exercise to release stress. Tools like journaling or a worry box can also work wonders for adults.
Believing
Remember, you’re not alone. Reach out to friends or family for support. Talking to someone can lift your spirits and provide much-needed encouragement.
About Lily-Jo
Lily-Jo, author of Talking to Children About Mental Health, is the founder of The Lily-Jo Project, a global initiative offering mental health education for children and adults. Her work empowers families to navigate mental health challenges with confidence.
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