Parent Yourself First: A guide to raising securely attached kids
Parent Yourself First, by Bryana Kappadakunnel, offers a compassionate and practical approach to breaking unhealthy cycles and raising securely attached children. This empowering book is perfect for parents overcoming their own childhood wounds and become the caregiver they wish they had.
A fresh perspective on parenting
Licensed marriage and family therapist Bryana Kappadakunnel brings her expertise as the founder of the popular Conscious Mommy community to this insightful guide. With a no-nonsense yet empathetic tone, she explains how past experiences shape your parenting style, often in ways you may not even realise.
She shows how unresolved emotions and learned behaviours from your upbringing can impact how you connect with your children. The key, she argues, is to unlearn these patterns and replace them with intentional, compassionate practices that foster secure attachment.
Why it’s never too late to change to parent yourself first
Many parents feel trapped by the parenting styles they inherited, but Kappadakunnel assures readers that transformation is always possible. She provides actionable advice for grounding yourself, managing emotions, and connecting with your child in meaningful ways.
Her approach focuses on healing generational trauma and building confidence as a parent. Whether you’re dealing with toddler tantrums or teen challenges, this book equips you with tools to guide your children toward a happy and healthy future.
Who is Bryana Kappadakunnel?
Bryana Kappadakunnel is a licensed marriage and family therapist with a master’s degree in Clinical Psychology from Pepperdine University. She is also an infant-family early childhood mental health specialist and a perinatal mental health expert. Based in California, she runs a private practice and leads the Conscious Mommy community on Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok.
Her expertise shines through in Parent Yourself First, making it a must-read for parents eager to foster secure, loving relationships with their children.
Where to find it
Parent Yourself First is available from Allen & Unwin UK as a trade paperback for £16.99. It releases on 6 February 2025.
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